Allowing Our Loved Ones To Be Human...

Putting People on a Pedestal When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities. They just don’t seem to have any. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting someone on a pedestal. Often times we put spiritual leaders and our gurus on pedestals. We have all done this to someone at one time or another, and as long as we remember that no one is actually “perfect,” the pedestal phase of a relationship can be enjoyed for what it is—a phase. It’s when we actually believe our own projection that troubles arise. Everyone has problems, flaws, and blind spots, just as we do. When we entertain the illusion that someone is perfect, we don’t allow them room to be human, so when they make an error in judgment or act in contradiction to our idea of perfection, we become disillusioned. We may get angry or distance ourselves in response. In the end, they are not to blame for the fact that we idealized them. Granted, they may have enjoyed seeing themselves as perfect through our eyes, but we are the ones who chose to believe an illusion. If you go through this process enough times, you learn that no one is perfect. We are all a combination of divine and human qualities and we all struggle. When we treat the people we love with this awareness, we actually allow for a much greater intimacy than when we held them aloft on an airy throne. The moment you see through your idealized projection is the moment you begin to see your loved one as he or she truly is. We cannot truly connect with a person when we idealize them. In life, there are no pedestals—we are all walking on the same ground together. When we realize this, we can own our own divinity and our humanity. This is the key to balance and wholeness within ourselves and our relationships

Hawaii

and so here are just some of the pics from our trip to hawaii! we went to Oahu and stayed just right off of Waikiki.....We had a blast! I'm wishing I was still there...

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Memorial Weekend

so we all went out to Lake Powell for Memorial Weekend!!! Here are some pics............

We had a good time. we were there for 4 days and I'm now exhausted...the weather wasn't the greatest the whole time but we dealt with it! i even slept in our tent for all 3 nights - which is unheard of for me :) spending time with family is what its all about. We look fwd to hopefully going back out there in july and september for labor day weekend! Now its off to Hawaii for a week ;)

My Tanner Girl...

we had to put my tanner girl to sleep on monday...it was really hard and really sad. I will love and miss her always. She was such a good girl but I guess it was just her time to go. She was about 15 years old & we've had her since she was a puppy. I remember the very first day my dad brought her home to us! She will be missed...I love u tanner girl! <3

Scentsy!

I'm currently hosting another Scentsy book party! This means that instead of me having a party somewhere - I can bring the stuff to you at your time, place & convenience! :) They have tons of new scents and warmers for spring and summer! If you are interested at all - please let me know...I will be hosting this for about 2 more weeks!

and if you don't know what Scentsy if then you need to check it out and see what you've been missing!

Yard Work

So we have been living in our house almost 2 1/2 years and haven't done anything with our yard...But we decided that this year we are gonna make it nice - we have been bustin' our butts in our back yard for the past month or so and we're only halfway done...I wish that we had some before before pics but we don't...But here is a progression of some of the work we have done so far...Next comes the sod & we can't wait!

Siana's 7th Birthday Party!

Siana turned 7 on March 16th! We all went out to Pirate Pizza the Saturday before to watch the kids play arcades and eat some ginormous 2 foot pizza! Then we had yummy cupcakes from 25 Main (if u haven't had their cupcakes then u r missing out and u should hurry and go get some) and some ice cream at our house and Siana opened her presents!